Courage – The strength to face pain, truth, or vulnerability. “I feared what I might find. But I leaned in anyway.” When I think of courage, the first images that come to mind include: Captain America, Spider-man, Wonder Woman, etc. Hollywood has created an entire genre based on characters who bravely and courageously stare evil […]

Confidence – A quiet knowing in who you are without performance or perfection.“Confidence wasn’t loud — it was the moment I stopped needing approval.” What really stands out to me about the description of confidence in terms of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and living in a state of self-leadership is the fact that the presence […]

A grounded, regulated inner state that can hold emotion without being consumed by it.“When I’m in Self, the waves don’t drown me — I float through them.” The power that results from the ability to stay grounded and not be overtaken by waves of emotion is incredible. It is life changing. It is indeed possible […]

In terms of “Self-Leadership,” clarity refers to the ability to see things as they are rather than through fear or past experiences. It means having a clear and focused understanding of your emotions, experiences and the world around you. On the surface, this seems pretty straightforward. In practice, it is rather complicated. Human beings like […]

Webster defines curiosity as:  “…the feeling of wanting to learn or discover something, often about things that are unknown or familiar. It’s a desire to explore and investigate as well as a powerful motivator for human development, progress, and learning.” In terms of Internal Family Systems (IFS), it is a warm willingness to ask: “What […]